There will come a time after your loved one’s death when you reach an anniversary that will make a day harder than most.
Birthdays, anniversaries of passings and other post-death milestones can be extremely challenging for surviving members. These celebrations can quickly turn into sorrow after the death of a loved one. They become stark reminders of what’s been lost.
All the things that you have done together in the past, along with all the good memories, can come flooding back. You know that if you do decide to carry on with your usual plans, in order to keep hold of your traditions, it can seem like you are celebrating without them. This shouldn’t be the case.
Here are a few tips for handling challenging anniversaries after a death:
Take a break
Anniversaries can be painful if you’re in familiar surroundings so taking a break is a great way to get away from it for a while. Travel to a different destination with friends or take a road trip before or during the anniversary. The new experiences and curiosity will overshadow the grief and help you get through the day.
Celebrate it differently
You can get through anniversaries without removing them from your life. Instead of celebrating it in the same manner as you did before, consider doing something new and interesting. Spend time with family, make it a game night, go out for drinks with friends, etc. New traditions will help you recover from your grief and make future celebrations less painful.
Take up a meaningful activity in the decedent’s name
Some people volunteer for a charity, others tick off items from the decedent’s bucket list. These meaningful activities can help if you want to remain connected with the deceased loved one but want to disassociate from the pain.
Always continue celebrating
Instead of sharing new experiences together, this is a time for fond remembrances and a celebration of a life lived to the absolute fullest. This can be an important part of the grieving process and ensures that the memory of your loved one will carry on. We are sure they will appreciate that you took the time to honor them while still moving forward and remaining positive. Maintaining traditions is also a way to remain connected to those who are no longer with us and many people get an incredible sense of comfort after the fact, even if the actual activity is difficult.
Remember, different people have different ways to cope with anniversaries after death so you won’t get it right the first time. But we hope you will find something that offers comfort and solace in these trying times.
Whether you choose to adopt new traditions that allow you to move forward or find solace and comfort in celebrating anniversaries as you always have, we here at Roupp Funeral Home are here to help. If you have any further questions or require any additional assistance, please do not hesitate to get in touch with us. The road to recovery can be a long one, but we are here to ensure that you don’t have to go it alone.