Sometimes it can be difficult to find the right words to share with a relative that is going through the grieving process. Dealing with grief is not something that you have to talk about often, therefore it is hard to find the appropriate responses when comforting a loved one.
We want to share with you 5 things that you can say/express to a grieving relative to bring them comfort, stability, and hope! This way, the next time you find yourself being a shoulder to lean on, you’ll have all the right things to say.
1. “I am so sorry for your loss. If you feel like talking, know that I am here to listen”
Don’t make it about you. Don’t relate their loss to a loss of your own. Just be there for them. That is what they need the most.
2. “If there is anything I can do for you, please let me know.”
Stay genuine. Offer to help, even when they say they don’t want/need anything. Some people won’t want to be a burden to you, so it is your job to push that thought out of their minds and make them feel comfortable to ask for help.
3. Share a memory.
If there is a memory that you have with that person, share it. Don’t feel like you can’t tell a story that is funny or uplifting about them. Sometimes laughter is the best medicine.
4. “You are in my thoughts and/or prayers.”
Depending on the person’s religious affiliation, you can choose how to phrase the sentence above. Let them know that you care and are taking the time to think or pray for that person. That will bring a sense of comfort to the one grieving.
5. “They loved you and your family so much.”
Remind them of how much love was surrounding the relationship. This will help with any guilt they are feeling.
Grieving is a process. There will be highs and lows, ups and downs, and more twists and turns than you can count. There is so much growth that can come out of the process though. Make sure that you are sharing uplifting and joyful words with your relatives as they are grieving. They will rise when they are being lifted up by you.
We have seen first hand every step of the grieving process. We are here to make things easier on you and your family. Know that we will be here for you every step of the way. Request a pre-planning consultation with Roupp Funeral Home, or call to schedule an appointment at (570) 966-2402.