Debunking Common Burial Myths

When a loved one passes away, family and friends often come together to share memories, find comfort, and begin the healing process. During this time, you may hear different terms used to describe the gatherings that take place before the funeral or memorial service.  Two of the most common are viewing and calling hours . While the two are sometimes used interchangeably, they are not the same. Understanding the difference between a viewing and calling hours can help families make thoughtful decisions about what feels right when honoring their loved one. What is a Viewing? A viewing is generally a more intimate gathering, often reserved for immediate family members and close friends. It takes place before the funeral service, offering a private opportunity to spend time with the deceased and say goodbye in a personal way. The body is usually present during a viewing, which can provide comfort and closure for many people. The setting is often quiet and reflective, allowing those closest to the deceased to share memories, offer prayers, or simply sit together in silence. For families, this smaller setting can feel less overwhelming than a larger public gathering and can provide an important first step in processing grief. What are Calling Hours? Calling hours , on the other hand, are usually open to a much wider circle of people. Sometimes referred to as visitation hours, they give extended family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, and community members the opportunity to stop in and pay their respects. Calling hours are typically scheduled for several hours, and guests may come and go at their convenience. Unlike a viewing, calling hours are more social in nature. They allow people to share stories, express condolences, and offer support to the grieving family. While the atmosphere remains respectful, calling hours often include conversations, hugs, and reconnections as people reflect on the impact the deceased had on their lives and community. Key Differences Between a Viewing and Calling Hours One of the key differences between a viewing and calling hours is the size and tone of the gathering. A viewing is usually small, quiet, and deeply personal, while calling hours tend to be larger and more interactive. The timing can also differ. A viewing may take place shortly before the funeral service, while calling hours are often scheduled the evening before or during the day of the service. Despite these differences, both serve important purposes. A viewing provides space for personal goodbyes, while calling hours allow the community to surround the grieving family with love and support. Families may choose to hold either a viewing, calling hours, or both, depending on their needs, traditions, and the wishes of their loved one. Some prefer the privacy of a viewing, while others appreciate the comfort that comes from seeing how many people cared for their loved one during calling hours. In many cases, families combine the two by holding a private viewing in the morning, followed by public calling hours later in the day. There is no right or wrong choice. What matters most is creating a meaningful opportunity to honor the life that was lived and to support those left behind. These traditions also carry cultural and religious significance for many families. In some faiths, viewings are a deeply meaningful ritual, while in others, calling hours are the primary way for the community to gather. Understanding the difference between these two types of gatherings helps families choose what feels most appropriate and comforting for them. At Roupp Funeral Home, we believe that both viewings and calling hours play an important role in the grieving process. They allow us to connect, to share, and to begin healing together. We also understand that planning these moments can feel overwhelming in the midst of loss. Our team is here to guide you with compassion and care, explaining your options and helping you create services that reflect your loved one’s life in a meaningful way. If you are planning funeral arrangements and are unsure about whether to hold a viewing, calling hours, or both, we invite you to reach out to us. We will take the time to listen, answer your questions, and help you decide what feels best for your family. No matter what you choose, you can be assured that we will walk beside you every step of the way, providing the support and care you need.

At Roupp Funeral Home, we understand that the journey through grief is deeply personal and often overwhelming. While mourning the loss of a loved one, it's essential to care for your physical and emotional well-being. Here are some compassionate and practical steps to help you maintain your health during this challenging time. Nourish Your Body with Care Grief can affect your appetite and eating habits. It's common to skip meals or indulge in comfort foods that may not provide the necessary nutrients. To support your body: Eat Balanced Meals : Incorporate a variety of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins into your diet. These foods can help stabilize your mood and energy levels. Stay Hydrated : Drink plenty of water throughout the day to keep your body functioning optimally. It may also be helpful to incorporate electrolytes into your drinks if you know you’re struggling to hydrate as much as you should. Our favorites are LMNT and Liquid I.V., which you can easily pick up at a local store and add to your water. Eat Small, Frequent Meals : If large meals feel overwhelming, try eating smaller portions more frequently to maintain energy levels. Check out our Cooking Therapy page on our website for easy meals you can make at home submitted by our readers. Prioritize Rest and Sleep Grief can disrupt sleep patterns, leading to fatigue and emotional distress. To improve your sleep quality: Establish a Routine : Go to bed and wake up at the same time each day to regulate your body's internal clock. Create a Restful Environment : Keep your bedroom cool, dark, and quiet. Limit screen time before bed to help signal to your body that it's time to wind down. If you know you love to watch TV or play on your phone before bed, use blue-light blocking glasses. Practice Relaxation Techniques : Engage in calming activities such as reading, listening to soothing music, or practicing deep breathing exercises before bedtime. Engage in Gentle Physical Activity Physical activity can help alleviate stress and improve mood. Even light exercise can make a difference: Take Short Walks : A brief walk around your neighborhood can provide a change of scenery and boost your spirits. Practice Gentle Yoga : Yoga can help release physical tension and promote emotional healing. We’ve hosted many Yoga for Grief events as yoga and meditation is one of the best ways for your body and your mind to release grief and work towards healing. Stretch Regularly : Simple stretching exercises can reduce muscle tightness and improve circulation. Seek Support and Connection You don't have to navigate grief alone. Connecting with others can provide comfort and understanding: Talk to Trusted Individuals : Share your feelings with friends, family, or a grief counselor who can offer support. Join Support Groups : Consider joining a grief support group where you can connect with others who are experiencing similar losses. We host GriefShare, a grief support group here at the funeral home every Summer and Winter. Check our website for our schedule to learn more. Express Yourself C reatively : Journaling, art, or music can be therapeutic outlets for your emotions. Be Gentle with Yourself Grief is a unique journey for each individual. It's important to allow yourself the time and space to heal:  Acknowledge Your Emotions : It's normal to experience a range of emotions, from sadness to anger. Allow yourself to feel without judgment. Set Realistic Expectations : Understand that healing takes time. It's okay to have good days and bad days. Practice Self-Compassion : Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a loved one. At Roupp Funeral Home, we are here to support you through every step of your grief journey. If you or someone you know is struggling, please don't hesitate to reach out. Our compassionate team is ready to assist you in finding the resources and support you need during this difficult time.

Family vacations and reunions are treasured times, filled with laughter, stories, and the simple joy of being together. For many, these moments create lifelong memories, strengthening bonds across generations. But what happens when grief or health challenges change the way you experience these gatherings? At Roupp Funeral Home, we understand how difficult it can be to attend a family vacation or reunion alone after the loss of a loved one, or when a family member’s health no longer allows them to join. Whether you are facing your first family event without a cherished family member or navigating the emotional complexities of attending solo, you are not alone. We are here to offer comfort, guidance, and support every step of the way. When a Family Vacation Feels Different It’s often said that grief doesn’t follow a timetable. One day, you may feel ready to be around family and celebrate; the next, the absence of a loved one can feel overwhelming. Family vacations or reunions that once brought everyone together can suddenly feel bittersweet or even lonely. The empty chair at the table or the silence where laughter once rang can bring a flood of memories and emotions. At Roupp Funeral Home, we want you to know that it’s okay to feel this way. Grief manifests differently for everyone. Here are a few gentle suggestions to help you navigate these moments: Acknowledge your feelings: It’s natural to feel sadness, anger, or even guilt. Accepting these emotions is part of healing. Create a tribute: Bring a photo or keepsake of your loved one to honor their memory during the trip. Share stories: Encourage family members to share memories. Sometimes, talking about your loved one can bring healing and connection. Set personal boundaries: Give yourself permission to step away or take quiet time if emotions become overwhelming. Lean on support: Reach out to family, friends, or professional counselors if you need someone to talk to. When Health Keeps a Loved One From Joining Sometimes, a family member’s health may prevent them from attending a reunion or vacation. This can be a painful reality for families, especially when everyone wishes to be together. If you find yourself attending alone because a loved one cannot join, remember that your presence honors their place in the family circle. Consider ways to include them remotely, such as: Video calls: Set up virtual visits so your loved one can see and hear family members in real-time. Sharing photos and videos: Take plenty of pictures and share moments after the event. Sending souvenirs or letters: Small gestures can help those who stay home feel connected. The Importance of Family Reunions, Even When Incomplete Family reunions hold a unique place in our hearts. They connect generations, remind us of our roots, and celebrate the ties that bind us. Use these gatherings to honor those who cannot be there. Here are a few ideas you may try to incorporate: Light a candle or hold a moment of silence in their memory. Create a memory table with photos and memorabilia. Share stories about their impact on your family. How Roupp Funeral Home Can Support You At Roupp Funeral Home, serving our community is more than a profession; it’s a calling. We offer compassionate guidance during life’s most challenging times, including helping families prepare meaningful memorials and providing resources for grief support. If you or a loved one is facing the loss of a family member or struggling to cope with grief during important family events, we encourage you to reach out. Our caring staff can help you find ways to honor your loved one’s memory and find comfort in the community.  Family vacations and reunions after a loss or during health challenges will always be different, but they can still be beautiful. They can be times to hold space for love, remembrance, and healing. If you find yourself attending alone or facing the absence of a loved one, remember you are surrounded by those who care, and your feelings are valid. Take each moment as it comes, and know that healing is a journey.

Grief has many shapes. It’s unpredictable and deeply personal, and at times, it feels impossible to put into words. In moments like these, we often turn to what’s familiar. What’s warm. What fills not just our stomachs, but our hearts. That’s the quiet power of food. At Roupp Funeral Home, we’ve witnessed how food can be more than nourishment. It becomes a bridge between memories, between generations, between those we’ve lost and those who carry on. An article recently moved us from Harry & David , “Comfort Food and Grief,” which beautifully captures this idea: that cooking can offer comfort in times of sorrow. Whether it’s a beloved family casserole or your mother’s banana bread recipe written in her handwriting, these dishes connect us to those who came before. In the absence of words, food allows us to say, I remember you. I love you. I miss you. Cooking Through Grief When you’re grieving, even the smallest daily tasks can feel overwhelming. But many people find a surprising sense of peace in the rhythm of chopping, stirring, and baking. It becomes a form of active mourning, something you can do when everything else feels out of your control. Here are just a few ways food can play a healing role in the grieving process: Ritual and Routine: Making a dish your loved one used to prepare can create a comforting structure and bring their presence into your kitchen. Remembrance: Cooking their favorite meal can be an act of remembrance. It sparks memories and conversations that keep their spirit alive. Togetherness: Sharing food with others who are grieving brings a sense of community. Whether it’s a potluck after a service or a quiet dinner at home, food gathers people. We’ve heard countless stories from families who have found meaning through food. Some bring in their loved one’s favorite cookies to share at services; others begin new traditions with old recipes. Your Stories, Your Recipes That’s why we created our Cooking Therapy recipe page - a place to find comfort and connection through the meals that mattered to the people you love. Each recipe shared tells a story: of a grandmother’s Sunday roast, a father’s famous chili, a sibling’s homemade soup. These are more than instructions; they are love letters written in flour and spice. We invite you to browse through the recipes that have already been submitted. And if you have a dish that reminds you of someone you’ve lost, we’d be honored if you’d share it with us. Submit your recipe to Hannah at hannah@rouppfhinc.com Whether it’s a full story or just a few words about what made the dish special, your contribution will help someone else feel a little less alone. Food as a Form of Legacy Grief never fully disappears, but it transforms. And part of that transformation is finding ways to carry the love forward.  Food is one of the most beautiful ways we can do that. It’s passed down, handed out, served up at birthdays and funerals alike. It tells us who we are and where we came from. So the next time you open a recipe box or pull out a stained card from the drawer, know this: you’re not just cooking. You’re honoring. You’re healing. And we’re here for you—every step of the way.

At Roupp Funeral Home, we often meet families during the most difficult moments of their lives. Moments that can be made significantly more manageable when their loved one has taken the time to get their affairs in order. Planning ahead, both legally and personally, isn’t just about paperwork; it’s a powerful act of love, responsibility, and clarity. If you’ve been thinking about getting your affairs in order, now is the time to take that important step. This blog post will walk you through what it really means to prepare legally, financially, and emotionally for the future. Why Getting Affairs In Order Matters Grief is hard enough without having to untangle legal documents, search for missing information, or make difficult decisions without guidance. When you have your affairs in order, you lift a huge burden from your family and give them the gift of clarity and peace during a time of sorrow. Getting your affairs in order helps you: Ensure your wishes are carried out the way you intend Protect your assets and legacy Prevent unnecessary stress and conflict among family members Provide a smoother, more meaningful funeral process Save time, money, and heartache later Start with the Legal Essentials Working with a trusted estate planning attorney is a smart first step. Here are the most important legal documents to have in place: 1. Will or Trust A will outlines how your property and assets will be distributed after your death. A trust can offer additional privacy and avoid probate, depending on your needs. 2. Power of Attorney This document designates someone you trust to make legal and financial decisions on your behalf if you’re unable to do so. 3. Advance Healthcare Directive (Living Will) This outlines your medical care preferences in case you are ever unable to speak for yourself, and names a healthcare proxy to carry out those wishes. 4. Beneficiary Designations Make sure your life insurance policies, retirement accounts, and other assets have updated beneficiaries. These can often override what’s in a will, so it’s important to review them regularly. 5. Document Organizer or Folder Keep copies of all these documents in one safe, accessible location, and make sure your family or legal representative knows where to find them. Next: Funeral Pre-Planning Once the legal side is in place, we encourage families to think about pre-planning their funeral arrangements. This ensures your personal wishes are honored and removes guesswork from your loved ones. At Roupp Funeral Home, we guide families through: • Type of Service Do you prefer a traditional funeral, a memorial service, or a simple gathering? Would you like a burial, cremation, or another type of final disposition? We help you put these preferences on paper. • Details That Matter From the music you’d like played to the readings or speakers you envision, these are the touches that create a meaningful and personalized tribute. • Financial Planning We offer affordable pre-payment options that lock in today’s prices and relieve your family of financial responsibility down the road. • Vital Information Collection We help you gather important details that will be needed at the time of passing such as your full legal name, Social Security number, military service history, and obituary preferences. When your legal documents and funeral arrangements are thoughtfully prepared, your affairs are truly in order. We recommend: Storing all documents in a fireproof box or secure folder Informing key family members or your attorney where to find everything Updating your plans as life circumstances change (marriage, divorce, new grandchildren, moving, etc.) Checking in with us every few years. We’re here to keep your file current We're Here to Help Every Step of the Way  At Roupp Funeral Home, we believe that planning ahead is one of the most caring things you can do for your family. Whether you’re just getting started or looking to update your existing plans, we’re here with support, guidance, and respect for your wishes. Getting your affairs in order doesn’t have to be overwhelming. We’re happy to connect you with local estate planning attorneys we trust, and we’ll walk with you through every aspect of pre-planning your funeral. If you have questions or would like to schedule a no-obligation consultation, please contact us today. We’re honored to serve you and your family with dignity, compassion, and care.

Losing someone you love is never easy, and standing before others to speak in their honor can feel overwhelming. At Roupp Funeral Home, we understand that beginning a eulogy in the wake of grief can both tremble the heart and soothe the soul. A heartfelt eulogy offers comfort to the speaker and to everyone gathered by capturing who your loved one truly was. In this post, we’re sharing a few of our top tips for how to write a eulogy with heart.  1. Pause, Reflect, Let Memories Speak Find a quiet moment, perhaps in a favorite chair, with a comforting drink to reflect on the person who has passed. Ask yourself: What made them laugh? What small gestures revealed their kindness? Which memories shimmer brightest in your mind? Let the answers guide your thoughts. Writing down even the simplest recollection can become unexpectedly powerful. 2. Build a Simple, Gentle Structure A clear format helps you speak with both confidence and compassion: Introduce yourself — say who you are and how you knew them. Share life highlights — touch on background, passions, and relationships. Tell personal stories — offer moments that reveal personality. Close with love — leave everyone with a heartfelt farewell, quote, or blessing. 3. Focus on Qualities That Defined Them Maybe they had a signature kind of humor, a constant generosity, or quiet strength: Humor : “Every time they walked into the room, laughter followed like the time they…” Kindness : “They never missed an opportunity to help, whether it was mowing a neighbor’s lawn or offering a listening ear.” Specific stories paint a portrait far richer than broad descriptions ever could. 4. Share a Favorite Memory, Even a Small One Personal stories invite others into your experience. They build connection and warmth: “I’ll never forget the time…” Whether it’s a humorous mishap or a quiet act of love, these stories are the heartbeats of the eulogy. 5. Speak from the Heart, in Your Own Voice You don’t need to be polished because authenticity matters more. It’s okay to show emotion, or even to pause. Embracing vulnerability resonates deeply with everyone listening. 6. Honor Their Legacy Reflect on how their influence lives on. Did they teach generosity, a steadfast work ethic, or joy in simple pleasures? “Though they’re not physically here, their spirit lives on in every Sunday meal we share, every favor passed forward, every smile we give to someone in need.” 7. Consider a Meaningful Quote or Poem Sometimes a line from poetry, scripture, or a trusted author can beautifully close your tribute: “As Maya Angelou wrote, ‘People will forget what you said… but never how you made them feel.’ That truly was [Name].” 8. Practice, Then Trust Yourself Read your eulogy aloud several times to find your natural flow. Bring a printed copy with you, it’s okay to read. This isn’t your high school English class when you couldn’t have notes in front of you. Notes are encouraged to help you stay on track. Your words matter more than perfect delivery. 9. Keep It Respectful, Hopeful, and Timely Aim for about 5–10 minutes, a length that honors without overwhelming. Focus on positive, uplifting memories. If your relationship was complex, steer toward gratitude and compassion. 10. Let It Be a Healing Gift Writing a eulogy isn’t just sharing memories, it’s part of healing. It can be a profound way to say goodbye, express gratitude, and offer comfort to all who loved them. Writing a eulogy is a courageous act of love. By taking moments to reflect sincerely, structure your thoughts gently, and speak with your heart, you create a tribute that not only honors your loved one but also offers solace to those who share in the loss. If you ever feel uncertain or need guidance, whether it's choosing a meaningful reading or finding the right tone, know that the Roupp family is here for you. We’re honored to help you celebrate a life well-lived and to hold space for your words, your memories, and your grief.

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When we honor a loved one’s life, every detail matters, including their final ride. The vehicles we use to carry the deceased, known as funeral cars or hearses, have evolved significantly over the past century. These somber yet dignified vehicles are not only functional, they are steeped in history, tradition, and symbolism. A Brief History of Funeral Cars in America The earliest funeral processions in America were entirely on foot or involved simple horse-drawn wagons. As communities grew and became more mobile, these wagons evolved into more formal carriages specifically designated to carry caskets. These horse-drawn hearses, often ornately carved and painted black, featured glass windows to display the casket and were drawn by black horses draped in matching plumes.

As Memorial Day approaches, we reflect on the sacrifices made by those who have served in the military. This holiday is a time of remembrance, not only for those who gave their lives but also for the traditions and rituals that honor their bravery and sacrifice. Among these rituals, military funeral honors stand as a profound symbol of respect, gratitude, and the deep debt of a nation to its fallen heroes.  Military funeral honors are a sacred tradition, an essential part of the process for those who served in the armed forces and made the ultimate sacrifice. These honors are performed to commemorate the lives of veterans, especially those who have passed in service to their country, and their deep significance cannot be understated. On Memorial Day, as we gather to honor the fallen, these rituals take on even greater importance, reminding us of the respect we owe to those who defended our freedoms. Here are the key elements of military funeral honors and their deeper meaning: 1. The Folding of the American Flag One of the most important moments in a military funeral is the folding of the American flag. As the flag is carefully and methodically folded into a triangle, it symbolizes the nation’s gratitude for the service member’s sacrifice. Each fold carries a specific meaning, representing values such as life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. The final triangle shape of the flag symbolizes the Triune God—Father, Son, and Holy Spirit—and the nation's dedication to preserving freedom. The flag is then presented to the deceased's next of kin, often a spouse or child, as a symbol of respect, gratitude, and honor. The folding of the flag is a somber, powerful gesture that not only recognizes the service member’s sacrifice but also offers comfort to the grieving family, providing a tangible symbol of their loved one’s patriotism and bravery. 2. The 21-Gun Salute The 21-gun salute is a deeply respectful tribute, representing the highest honor a nation can offer its fallen soldiers. The tradition of the 21-gun salute dates back centuries and is rooted in the practice of firing cannons to indicate a sign of peace, symbolizing the end of conflict. Today, this ritual is reserved for honoring the deceased veteran and is performed by a military firing squad at the funeral or memorial service. Each shot in the salute symbolizes the nation’s deep respect and gratitude for the deceased. The firing of the 21-gun salute serves as both a powerful tribute to the fallen and a poignant reminder to the family and community of the service member’s unwavering dedication to duty. The echo of each shot is more than ceremonial—it carries the weight of a nation’s collective thanks. Typically performed using blanks, this honor is often accompanied by the presentation of the spent shell casings to the grieving family, alongside the folded American flag, offering them a lasting, tangible symbol of their loved one’s sacrifice and bravery. 3. The Playing of "Taps" Perhaps the most emotionally charged moment of the military funeral honors is the playing of "Taps." This solemn bugle call is traditionally played at the conclusion of military funeral services and is universally recognized as a tribute to those who have served. The haunting melody evokes deep emotions, symbolizing the finality of death and the honoring of the soldier's life. The history of "Taps" is rooted in the Civil War, where it was first used to signal the end of the day or the end of a battle. Today, it is played at military funerals to honor the deceased, as it symbolizes peace, rest, and the eternal gratitude the nation holds for the fallen. The sound of "Taps" reverberates with sorrow, but also with reverence for the person who gave everything for the country’s freedom. Memorial Day & Military Funeral Honors: As we observe Memorial Day, these ceremonial aspects of military funeral honors take on a deeper resonance. Memorial Day is not just about acknowledging those who have died in service to our country—it’s about remembering their sacrifice and the sacrifices of their families. These rituals, from the folding of the flag to the firing of the 21-gun salute and the playing of "Taps," remind us of the deep loss experienced by military families and the immense gratitude we owe them. For grieving families, these honors offer a sense of closure, acknowledging the life of a loved one who gave everything for a cause greater than themselves. The rituals provide a structured way for family members to process their grief while being reminded of the lasting legacy of their loved one’s service. How to Honor Their Memory As we reflect on these meaningful traditions, Memorial Day presents an opportunity for all of us to honor the memory of those who have died in service to our country. Whether through attending a local Memorial Day ceremony, observing a moment of silence, or personally remembering the sacrifices of military service members, we can all participate in this collective act of remembrance. At Roupp Funeral Home, we recognize the importance of Memorial Day in the lives of military families. We offer our deepest respect and gratitude for those who have served and continue to serve. Our team is here to support you during times of grief, providing personalized services that honor the life and legacy of your loved ones. This Memorial Day, let us all pause to reflect on the sacrifices made for our freedom, and through rituals like military funeral honors, pay tribute to those whose courage, patriotism, and selflessness will never be forgotten.